"everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves"
~ Carl Jung
i like that second exercise much better. to me it sounds more positive - more like the goodness is inside me and i just have to identify it and accept it - and finally own it. it reminds me of this recent post about inspiriational bloggers. it's not as negative as the first one - where you have to confront the bad to get to the good. while both are very worthwhile activities - i may just focus on the 2nd one for a bit.